| WANTED!!! LOOKING FOR MR. RIGHT or I'M YOUR WHITE KNIGHT GOOD LOOKING GWM, 40yo LOOKS 30ish, 5'9", 165#, MASCULINE LOOKING, PROFESSIONAL GQ TYPE, TALENTED, D/D FREE, BUFF, MUSCULAR, WORKOUT BOD, STRT8 ACTING, CLEAN, HIV( ) UB2 SEEKING LTR WITH GWM WILL CONSIDER GHM NO FEMS NO QUEENS NO UGLIES, NO CHUBS, NO DRAMA I'M TIRED OF GAMES/BS/ATTITUDE - WILL RELOCATE TIRED OF ONE NIGHT STANDS - BEEN THERE DONE THAT! EXCELLENT LOVER MATERIAL - YOUR PIC GETS MINE! EMAIL ME scream1@yahoo or scream2@yahoo .....and there's probably at least 2 or 3 other yahoo/aol IDs being used in chat rooms, groups and on various personal sites throughout the vast WWW internet! You know the type - we've all encountered, made contact, dealt, chatted, caught them dealing out there games, BS, mischief but at the root of it all is "the chase" - some are upfront looking strictly for sexual hook-ups and there's not a thing wrong with that at all! Too often though many of those who say they are looking for long term relationships become frustrated when they discover the person they thought was sincere was really seeking sex. There are many who do indeed misrepresent themselves as to what they are really looking for. just when you thought you found someone you realize that SCREAM1 is also GHVTRG IN THAT CHAT ROOM HOOKING UP WITH OTHERS. Something is said in a chat room (oh that comment is familiar or that person likes the same things this other guy does) and then you see that same picture being used in both profiles. Don't you just want to kick somebody's ass? Worse yet you spend a great deal of time getting to know that person from IM chats and then you feel like shit and are angrier because that time could have been spent with someone else that you had been putting off "just in case". I WANT TO KNOW WHO IN THE HELL TOLD YOU THAT YOU ARE GOOD LOOKING? YOUR MOTHER? THAT'S YOUR OPINION. SEND ME THE PIC & LET ME TELL YOU HOW GOOD YOU LOOK! DON'T SEND ME A PIC THAT WAS TAKEN YEARS AGO EITHER. THERE'S ALWAYS A PLACE OR SOMEONE WITH A CAMERA THESE DAYS. I WANT TO SEE YOUR FACE SO I CAN PUT A FACE WITH THE MESSAGE. DON'T SEND ME YOUR DICK/BUTT SHOTS RIGHT OFF THE BAT IF YOUR LOOKING FOR A LTR. THAT TELLS ME WHAT YOU ARE REALLY SEEKING IN LIFE - I ALREADY KNOW YOU WANT A LTR. SHARE YOUR HOBBIES, WHAT YOU READ, WATCH & LISTEN TO. IF YOUR FRUSTRATED OR HAPPY ABOUT SOMETHING SHARE THAT. I WANT TO KNOW YOUR DREAMS & GOALS. I'LL LISTEN TO IT - WE MAY HAVE SOME COMMON GROUND THERE! I BASE MY RELATIONSHIPS/MEETINGS WITH PEOPLE. WHEN I'M IN PUBLIC I DO NOT TALK TO THEIR BUTTS/COCKS. IF YOU ARE GOING TO ADVERTISE MANY SITES ALLOW YOU TO POST A PIC. YOU STRUT YOUR STUFF IN PUBLIC WHEN YOU LOOK SO GO AHEAD & SHOW US WHAT YOU GOT! DON'T TELL ME MY PIC GETS YOURS - YOU'RE THE ONE LOOKING SO SELL IT! WHAT'S UP WITH MR. RIGHT THESE DAYS? IS HE MR. GOODBAR'S GRANDSON? "PROFESSIONAL GQ TYPE" - TELL ME WHAT PAGE AND WHICH ISSUE YOU ARE IN. "STRT8???" - WHO TOLD YOU THAT? MEL GIBSON OR THAT CONSTRUCTION WORKER WHO CAUGHT YOU SNEAKING A PEEK AT HIS CROTCH? WHEN YOU EMAIL ME TELL ME SOMETHING MORE ABOUT YOURSELF THAT IS NOT IN YOUR PROFILE OR PERSONAL AD. "NO FEMS, NO QUEENS, NO UGLIES, NO CHUBS" YOU'RE AN INSENSITIVE PERSON - WHILE THE PURTY BOYS WERE STANDING and MODELLING ON THE STREETS OF NYC IT WAS THOSE FEMS/QUEENS/UGLIES/BEARS/CHUBS WHO TOOK THE COPS BY THE BALLS WHILE THE BUFF BOD LOOKED ON AND BECAUSE OF THEM WE HAVE MORE CIVIL LIBERTIES AND RIGHTS TODAY! OH YEAH - THOSE FEMS/QUEENS/CHUBS & COMPANY RAISE MILLIONS OF DOLLAR EVERY YEAR FOR HIV ORGANIZATIONS. ASK HIM FOR A PIC..... THEN EMAIL BACK SAYING "THANK YOU BUT YOU ARE NOT MY TYPE" THAT IS OFTEN ACCEPTED AS A POLITE DECLINE. BESIDE IF YOU HAD ANY GOOD MANNERS YOU WOULD REPLY WITH A "THAT THANK YOU & A YES, NO, MAYBE" RESPONSE. "D/D FREE" - HEY YOU MAY WIND UP WITH CANCER/HIV/MS ONE DAY. DISEASE FREE IS OFFENSIVE TO SOME OUT THERE - PUT YOURSELF INTO SOMEONE'S SHOES AND THINK HOW YOU MIGHT FEEL. JUST POST HIV- OR HIV+ PREFER SAME OR BOTH "WORKOUT BOD REGULARLY/MUSCULAR/BUFF" - THAT'S GREAT! IF YOU HAD A PICTURE POSTED WE MIGHT BE ABLE TO SEE THAT. "GWM WILL CONSIDER GHM (GBM)" THAT REALLY NARROWS YOUR SEARCH! MR. RIGHT MAY HAVE ALREADY PASSED YOU BY IF YOU'RE COLOR BLIND. THE WORLD IS FULL OF COLOR - RED ROSES SMELL THE SAME AS YELLOW ROSES. YOUR SHIT SMELLS NO DIFFERENT THAN MINE. YOU'VE ALREADY CREATED BARRIERS TO RECEIVING A BUNDLE OF BEAUTY. DON'T TELL ME THAT YOU'RE NOT RACIST OR THAT YOU ARE A LIBERAL EASY GOING PERSON WHO IS OPEN MINDED IF YOU CANNOT SEE THROUGH COLOR! "UB2" IS GREAT WHEN IT APPLIES TO NO DRUGS, NON SMOKER, NO ALCOHOL NOT INTO BARS, SPIRITUAL, & LOVE THIS & LOVE THAT! IF YOU GOT UB2 IN YOUR ADS/PROFILES FOR A "CARBON COPY" OF YOURSELF I'M NOT YOUR TYPE - KEEP LOOKING YOU'LL FIND ONE! GAWD! THAT FELT SO GOOD ! HUMOR & LAUGHTER & VENTING DON'T LEAVE HOME WITHOUT IT! I would like to THANK Kevin for starting a thread, someone I do not know, for that motivation to expand on a thread in a forum called, ".......frustrated with the chase......." at www.thinkpoz.com - check it out, its for POZ PEOPLE, its free so far and really gives you a place to express yourself in many different creative ways.... my original posting on that thread is below....so is my current picture below, taken 09/07/07....... now that ugly mug of mine is enough to make the road kill rise up from the dead and scramble way off the road and over the hills....... "my two bits and a bit more........there's gold up in those black hills tucked away in the most remote areas - I had a pink poz biker buddy that was living up there for years - got to ride his last sturgis with him a few years back and then we hooked up again at DEVILS TOWER WY for a few days in 04 - he passed right after doing HIS last sturgis rally that year. He was always talking and aching about how he had to travel long distances for the chase it but he said he would not give up living where he was - his major gripe about the chase was these people who talked a good game about "willing to relocate" which he said was a BS line of crap - all talk and no walk. He had fun chasing though. I did to but I enjoyed the riding moreso. There are a lot of players on the internet and over the years I've met a few who persist in using multiple identities, its all just an extended game and its dishonest, says something about the person. I can understand using using a private ID on yahoo for family and close friends and having another for GROUPS cause of the spam but these people who have 5 or 6 IDs are trolling. One of the things I find so limiting in the chase are preferences. Nothing wrong with the basics (age, location, common ground) but then there are those UB2, BUFF, PROFESSIONAL , etc keys words used - after a while it seems like EVERYONE is looking for UB2, etc. Hell, why not get a cardboard cutout or a blowup bob and dress it up the way ya want it? Go to the GYM there's lot of POZ BUFFS there or check out the bars for BUFFs - when I hear people mention in their ads and profiles that they are TIRED OF THE BIS, ATTITUDE AND GAMES I usually have found these same people are the first to dish it out. Worse yet are those pics - oh yeah I forgot to tell ya that was taken a few years ago or that pic was taken before I went to aunt Betty's funeral just before I had an accident and went into the hospital and gained weight......OK! Those young ones that hit us up who are half our age well I think most of us can remember when we were young and wanted love with another person yet when we got it we always wanted the ice cream too...testosterone kicks in in the 20's - not that some are genuine, most get stuck into that looking for mr right mode and in the gay community Mr Right seems to never come along - a friend once told me that was "part of our culture" Bullshit! Its a male trait period, not just for gay men. But there is a certain age most men do want to settle. As we get older and wiser we wonder if we done anything wrong. NOPE! Life passes by fast when yer having a great time. Hey I'm not complaining - just expressing an opinion. The facts about the gay community when looked closely are sad. There's more suicide (young age), alcohol and substance abuse in the gay community and that's followed up with domestic violence. There's MORE discrimination within our community as well. I'm a 53 yo man and KNOW what it was like for AfrAm, Oriental, Latino, Hisp in San Francisco in the 70's and 80's (still is there too!) - I saw it then and saw it again in 98 and 2003, 2004 when I was out there for a visit. "We take care of our own" is the motto those activists use when they want to pull strength in numbers - yeah right! I served on the HIV planning council in Austin back in the early 90's - I left in 95 after three years of serving because all I saw were white gay men listening to the "voices of the underserved" women, AfrAm, His - they made sure they had a "token vote" in the council to make HHRSA (ryan white care act) happy and pushed the numbers but who really got served? The chase of course was for dollars for services. Some of that has changed somewhat for the better. It took a few of us to threaten to have funding pulled but it changed. Sorry I went off on my rant and went a bit off topic. No bone for the Dingo, eh? <grin> One thing most of us real peopel seem to have is our sense of humor - we've been blessed and are able to turn the HIV thing into something a bit more positive. But lets break down another barrier when it comes to "the chase". When are people going to stop looking at color when they are chasing for a LTR? Can someone tell me why it is important to seek just GBM, GHM, GWM, - I am not going to buy into "Its a cultural thing".......look a bit past the color and you might see WHO a person is vs WHAT they are. I have had guys tell me that they have seen a person they wanted to talk to but that person is a different color and hangs around the same color and must not be interested. So they've told me that rather than be rejected they just do not approach that person. I say that may be true of some but when it comes to public gathering (bars are horrible for this) many don't want to hang with the others because they have already been rejected so often and its just one more way of getting rejected! I don't mean to piss anyone off - we're all entitled to an opinion and its OK to disagree - after all, that's human! That's one of the many "gifts" we have been given by that Higher Power (you can call him/her God, Allah, Goddess, Creator, Divine One, or whatever your belief is). Let me be careful - mention God or Higher Power and people flee like flies. <chuckle> It's true though! I'm not saying we have to talk religion or wear frocks or carry rosary's around chanting and praying all the time BUT when it comes to the chase many don't even bring up religion. Some are afraid to ask out of fear of rejection. IMHO I have always felt that a person who has no faith has no hope and with no hope there is no understanding and no love. Some may disagree with that but hey, that's your right. Then there's those people who emphasize sex. NOTHING WRONG WITH SEX except for those who misrepresent themselves. Top and bottom theres a match. Too many people try to snare you with the "I'm versatile" which more often than not for me has translated to "I like to be the bottom 60, 70, 80 90, 95% of the time" - I played, laughed and asked where their charts were to come up with those percentages and left them there after a good fuck. I been a top almost my entire life and when I wanted to explore I went looking for versatile cause I wanted to explore the passive side of myself. My best friend says that I am probably the world's most frustrated top. I doubt it - I've talked to three "tops" online over the years but they weren't looking for a LTR - I went and explored when I could and appreciate their honesty and being upfront. The chase.........I wonder how many people out there, black, white, red, green and whatever other color people might have missed and have passed by the person that could have been in their life because they didn't want to see past color - sorry David , I love ya man, that WAS NOT ONE on you! <grin> . The chase can be a lot of fun but for some of us we get a bit older and want to spend the time and energy doing those things we dreamed about in our younger years - I been doing it for a while (pursuing dreams) and although I'm not actively chasing right now that does not mean I don't want a LTR. I'm still waiting and hoping he will appear but in the meantime there's other things in my Life that take priority. I still welcome the good old fashioned romancing, the classic chase of let's meet and get to know each other first. If you want sex or I want sex while we are getting to know each other let's remember not to base a potential relationship solely on the sexual performance. Coca Cola Classic with a Classic Chase, sitting in a dark movie theater and wanting to put my hand there on your knee........OK, I'm living in the 21st Century - that doesn't mean I have to change with the attitudes of the times (if I did that I would be right behind Bush and Rove - its OK to lie these days, isn't it)...... I'm going to continue to be who I am and live the way I'm comfortable with. So if someone else doesn't like the way I think, I'm OK with it - why aren't they? Ranting and raving - THANK YOU KEVIN for stimulating me to post! I understand your frustrations with the chase! Although we have never met or chatted we probably share some of these same sentiments. OTHER CRAP Those who tout themselves as being "happily coupled" but are out there seeking sex should ask themselves how fucking happy they really are - better yet, how happy are their mates allowing that? Most people I have talked to who are in open relationships eventually tell me their while their mates are doing "his thing" that they do feel hurt but they allow it to go on "cause I'm in love with him." I understand that and have been there myself but finally had to question how happy that mate really was and why they did what they did. Sex for some can be an addiction and there's always a deep rooted lack of self-esteem or another problem buried. Some say they like to explore their sexuality and desires and can't do that with their partner. HEY!! I don't buy into that at all - I believe that an important part of a relationship is communication between both people - and I also believe partners should find some common or middle ground - make a compromise - and explore each other - that to me is both people working towards strengthening what they have. I wound up hurting someone years ago and then being hurt the same way. One guy told me to go see American Beauty and I would understand his midlife crisis. Already understood it cause I had been there - and that great movie says it all! Then there are those "serial daters looking for a LTR" who never seem to be able to make up their minds. Is it really that or just an addiction to sex - those types never settle down for long! They get caught into that perpetual chase thinking that the next one is going to be better! They'll also lie to you and tell you that they are NOT seeing others "just in case...." They justify their actions. I believe if someone is truly looking for that LTR they will take the time with one person at a time and focus their energy on that person and themselves. Those "others" probably will still be around if "this one is not who I am looking for" - if they are not then it was not meant to be! I discovered the "perpetual chasers" years ago and sometimes when they lie they get caught. Kinda like the guy who IMs you and everyone else at the same time while he's chatting on the phone! Worse yet is when they send you the WRONG IM message and then try to cover it up! The bottom line here is if what you do and have works for you, go for it. But take a few minutes to examine the effects some actions and words may have on others - evetually it will come back on you, maybe not all at once but as you get older you will have it happen. Hopefully you will also be able to still laugh and reflect upon it all and not become bitter. If you find yourself being bitter or unhappy, just remember that its important to still laugh and its not too late to take a look at yourself and go out there looking again - the trick is not to go down that bumpy road again - try another path - it works! Jim September 2007 IF YOU WANT A GOOD LAUGH KICKSTART THIS LINK - it will take you out of my domain but is well worth it! MOTORCYCLES MAKE YOU GAY http://www.milky.org.uk/xargle/mmyg/ |
